strangely satisfying

I got curious about the spike in new followers (though I’m purposely not posting regularly) so I dived into my list and noticed a bunch of “greyed” out blogs that follow mine but that no longer exist.

I removed one, then two and quickly found myself scrolling through my entire list to delete all the other no-longer-existent blog follows.

Yeah, I said all.

Of course it was a waste of time but it was so strangely satisfying that I didn’t want to stop.

And since I had no mental energy left to do something more worthwhile, I deleted all the ones that were clearly spammy as well.

So my list of followers is considerably less but it doesn’t matter. Why keep them around if they aren’t “true”?

In a few months after I’m finished with my newsletter course, I’ll need to refocus on building my email list anyways so false inflated numbers don’t serve any purpose, right?

Have you ever sifted through your list and deleted followers?

Bots

Bots.

I’m not posting regularly so when I see an increase in my followers, I know it’s due to bots, bots and more bots.

I just don’t get it.

If you aren’t going to try to trick or spam me into buying something, why do bots follow blogs?

I understand those weird spam messages that go straight to my Junk folder but what does one gain by being a fake follower?

Do they hope that I’ll follow back without checking their supposed blog first? Will they eventually try to sell me something? Is it a creepy way to get into my account?

Can someone explain this to me?

I’m simply curious though I occasionally go further into my account and remove their follows right out of my hair.

baring your soul

Would you bare your soul online if your anonymity was totally guaranteed?

I definitely wouldn’t.

Besides not believing that there is such a thing as total anonymity when it comes to anything done online, I would be much too paranoid and careful to do it.

But what if it was to take a weight off your heart or to warn others against mistakes you have made?

I’m still not sure if I would do it.

But Lily, the character in my Wattpad story is doing just that – sharing her horrible experience with her abusive ex and confessing how she may or may not have tried to kill him.

Though I wouldn’t do it, my curiosity would get the better of me if I stumbled across a real blog like Lily’s…

If you’d like to give a read at what I’ve written so far, you can visit “If My Wounds Were Visible” on Wattpad here.

Bisous,

M

baby steps

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again…

I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions.

My resolutions always end up like my “I’ll start my diet next Monday” promises – in a big old dumpster fire because they were are big and I expect results too quickly.

However I do believe in trying to find solutions to bothersome situations with tiny little steps and if I happen to try when it’s January or September, so be it.

Baby steps.

Like removing the Facebook app from my phone as of January 1…

Ignoring all that oh-so jaw-dropping drama right now in Romancelandia on Twitter…

Like no longer reading, reading and reading more books about the craft of writing when all I need is to simply write…

Like no longer researching about self-publish when I just need to complete a piece to publish…

Like limiting the time I spend admiring other people’s photos on Instagram…uhh…well, except for one artist’s IG where the thirst traps are too hard to resist.

 

In the past few days that I’ve committed to limiting distractions or not doing any of the above, I feel like I’ve recouped so much time.

More time to dedicate to reading which will help me add to my Book Review widget.

Yeah, baby steps.

What baby steps are you taking?

Bisous,

M

 

happy anniversary to me

Wow!

I’ve been on WordPress for 5 years and what do I have to show for it?

Did I finally publish a book?

No.

Did I become some kind of popular blogger?

No.

Did I make money from blogging?

No.

But I’ll tell you what did happen during those 5 years that’s more important than all of the above:

I learned the basics about blogging and got comfortable with expressing my thoughts in this space…

I learned to stop talking about my love of writing to those who think it’s unimportant because it’s not worth the frustration…

I’ve made a number of AMAZING online friends that I never would have met if it weren’t for taking a chance on that first WordPress Writing 101 course…

YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!

So happy anniversary to me and thanks for being the reason I keep sticking around.

Bisous,

M

 

 

(mostly) staying in my writing lane

A long while back, I started an off-shoot blog and my idea was to share a few personal anecdotes and my thoughts on the state of affairs outside of my writer’s blog.

You know, anecdotes about growing up in a world that didn’t glamorize, glorify or grant any attention to girls who looked like me.

A time where little Black girls didn’t see themselves in any light and even when they did, it was never a positive one.

A time where the hashtag #Blackgirlmagic would have been considered a terribly funny joke.

But thankfully with the power of the internet, the world is a much smaller place now and the world is finally recognizing that we are a force to be reckoned with.

Like this article from the Washington Post and this article below:

If you are looking to empower yourself as a Black woman, if you desire to level-up to be the best you can be for yourself and conquer the world alongside the squads of like-minded Black women waking up, there are resources and information out there to suit all needs.

I follow a handful of intelligent, life-experienced, and savvy female social media personalities who see us as “women first” (before anything else) and they have been doing an EXCELLENT job of providing guidance for years.

Naturally, I don’t blindly follow everything they say – I chew the meat and spit out the fat. I take what they say and then decide if it resonates with my personality and my world.

(I can privately share my handful with you if you DM me on Instagram.)

So with that in mind, I’m going to let that other off-shoot blog go. And there is no use in linking to it in this post because it will soon disappear into the ether early in the new year.

Besides the extra work and thought involved, I don’t need a completely different blog space to share my musings about non-fictional things that resonate with me.

As a storyteller, I can stay in my lane – my storytelling lane – and weave my messages and my experiences into my work, all the while using my main blog to voice whatever I like, whenever I like and however I like on other topics.

Like anyone else, there are different facets to me and that’s just the way it is. If certain readers don’t appreciate it when I raise deeper and more sensitive topics, so be it.

One thing is for sure, my niche readers and audience will stick around because they know that I’m writing for them just as much as I’m writing for myself.

Upwards, onwards!

Bisous,

M xoxo

what are you leaving behind? #2020 #newyear

It’s time for 2019 to leave and never come back.

Though I don’t blog as much and may not always comment, I know that 2019 has not been too kind to a number of you.

To be honest, the year hasn’t been the greatest for me either.

Bah hum bug.

Too much drama, work, unhealthiness, loss and sadness.

And certain changing landscapes of life that came too soon.

Yeah, your time is up 2019!

There are so many posts flying around social media about “What are you leaving behind in 2020?” and I like the idea of deciding what you don’t want to carry into a spanking brand new year.

Why is deciding what you don’t want easier than figuring out what you do want???

Off the top of my head, I have one thing at #1 on my list:

To leave behind my OCD-like habit of putting my oxygen mask on last to save everyone (including acquaintances) first.

That one item would have a huge ripple effect on EVERYTHING

I’ll suffer some guilt and a number of consequences but hopefully I’ll reap some benefits, like being able to breathe a little more deeply.

What is THE one thing you will leave behind in 2019?

What do you owe yourself in 2020?

I challenge YOU to write a quick post and drop it in the comment box OR simply comment here.

Let’s do this together! Go ahead and share this with your friends!

Here are a few links to get your brain juices flowing:
50 Bad Habits To Leave Behind In 2019 (easily applied to 2020)
In 2020, Let Go Of The Things That Hold You Back
20 Things To Let Go Of Before 2020