Who’s The Grinch? #Christmas #hohoho

Cheezburger animated grinch wreath
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While hanging out at a coffee shop the other day (an item on my 52 Things In 52 Weeks challenge list), I overheard an interesting conversation.

“Jane” (the name I’m giving her) has a niece, “Samantha” who is in her early twenties.

Over the years and without fail, Jane has always sent this niece Christmas gifts – gifts that Samantha always accepted and made good use of (from what Jane can see from the Facebook photos).

During a recent and random conversation with her niece, Samantha told Jane that she is an atheist and was even a bit disrespectful towards Jane by “mocking” (for lack of a better term) her belief in all things related to God. Jane has no issues with Samantha being an atheist – as far as she’s concerned, Samantha’s an adult with a right to her own views.

But now, Jane is in a dilemma:

Should she continue to buy Samantha’s siblings (who are believers) Christmas gifts but be the Grinch when it comes to Samantha from now on?

Jane’s friend gave her an earful about the fact that “Christmas” is about the birth of Jesus Christ and that if Samantha is an atheist, she should refuse all “Christmas” gifts given to her. Jane’s friend also added that Jane should “respect” Samantha’s viewpoint by discontinuing all “Christmas” gift giving to her.

The hesitation I could hear in Jane’s voice made me wonder if her reaction would have been different if Samantha was not a relative.

I had to leave the café so I didn’t hear the end of the conversation.

What are your thoughts on the advice that was given to Jane? If you were in Jane’s shoes, what would you do? Give your thoughts in the comments.

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11 thoughts on “Who’s The Grinch? #Christmas #hohoho

  1. Marquesa, this video was on my FB page. It very much relates. https://www.facebook.com/evanadnams/posts/10154147743832543

    I think you should be able to see it. If not let me know. I think it’s important, we may celebrate Christmas, because that’s when Christ for Christians was born — hence why we call it Christmas. And in North America and are younger history, is based a lot from
    Christianity. However, the holiday in general came out of other celebrations occurring around the same time — the Romans, the pagans and solstice etc. So she can celebrate how she wants and so can her friend. A gift is a gift, it’s being thoughtful and not up to her if her friend/relative chooses to give her a present. Learn some manners and say thank you. It’s thoughtfulness no matter the time of year. She shouldn’t ruin her friends holiday by telling her she can’t give gifts. Lol.

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    • Yes, in the end Jane has to make a decision herself about the Christmas gift. Maybe Jane should have stopped giving Sam gifts years ago in general due to the “no thank yous”…I mean, if someone has no manners, why would you keep giving them a gift???

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  2. Unfortunately, efforts to disassociate Christmas from the birth of Christ continue, and probably always will. Wouldn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable – that’s not politically correct. Meh.

    To buy or not – is solely up to Jane, regardless of her reasons. Jane’s friend needs to shut it and #HaveASeat.

    Since it seems to be such a dilemma for Jane, she does need to understand WHY she buys gifts…for anyone. Is she giving gifts in commemoration of the gifts given to the baby Jesus? Because He was a gift to mankind? Are shared beliefs necessary to share gifts? Because she’d feel bad if she didn’t?

    Personally, I’d cut everyone off…starting with Miss Samantha! LMAO!

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    • I didn’t get a good look at Jane but she sounded kind of meek and maybe that’s why her friend was having a small fit? Anyhoot and outside of the whole Christmas thing, I would shut the niece down after the 2nd lack of a “thank you”. No manners, no gifts!


  3. I think that Christmas means a lot of different things to everyone. For Jane (and for me), it’s about the birth of Jesus and the hope that brings for all Christians. But it is also a time of shared love and joy with our families. Giving a gift isn’t tied to the religious implications of the holiday. It’s about showing how much you love and cherish that person, and showing that you are thinking about them. I think she should continue to buy gifts for her niece since it is clear she loves her niece. But I would also have a conversation with the niece about not mocking other’s beliefs (no matter what time of year it is)

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    • Interesting viewpoint. For me, two things stand out from what I heard: 1. Jane mentionned the lack of thank yous which, to me, indicates that it bugs her…I would have shut that down long ago. 2. I’ve met a few people who say they don’t believe in Christmas, yet they accept but never give any. Convenient, right?


  4. Howdy, I believe in a God and have what is for me, a good personal relationship. Yet, xmas? Count me out. My son and grandson, know this. The rest of my friends and family too. Yet, for my grandson I buy two birthday gifts. So he does not have to suffer from peers. A bit of a “cop out”, for sure. I just happen to hate anything to do with xmas. It’s such a corporate time of year. As for “Jane”? Sure, exclude Samantha. Better yet, stop doing it period. Nobody will consider “Jane” ungenerous. Generosity is found in the spirit, not in spending. God does not want you to spend money. Just your love. BTW. It’s the same God, whether Christian, Jew, Zoroastrian, Buddhist or Muslim. Cheers Jamie

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    • Very true. I love the Christmas feeling but hate the commercialism. My ideal Christmas day would be staying in pyjamas, making a nice meal together as a family and watching old movies. For me its about the presence, not presents.💕 As for Sam, I wouldn’t need to think twice!🙄

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    • Yeah, … I don’t give, nor receive. It’s not about presents. It’s supposed be the celebration of the “Messiah’s birth? Right?

      Somehow the whole concept has become warped. The Grinch is a corporate entity made popular to encourage people to spend M-o-n-e-y. The Gnostic celebration, on which the whole Catholic, or Eastern Orthodox, now Protestant view is based. Is different. The gnostic view, was astrology based. The Catholic view is more about linking state, to religion. Thereby creating control.

      Strictly my personal view, is there never was a Jesus of Nazareth. That has little to do with God. Feeling God, or knowing God. However, if there was a Jesus of Nazareth? He sought out his devotees from the so-called dregs of humanity. The whores, the manual workers and the honest.

      Afterwards, things like the enclave of this …https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_Council_of_Nicaea did much to negate previous doctrine and develop the later on; medieval concepts of Christianity.

      For myself. God lives in my heart. God is love and love is God. We are born to suffer. God needs us to know God. God cannot know itself. God is light and love. God has no need of books, or buildings. Just our love. The Universe is huge and diverse. Likewise so is God.

      Am I crazy? Maybe? Try it? People have little to lose. Just keep God in your hearts. Try it? Live in light. I am not telling people to not believe, just to try it differently. To cut out the business of Christmas. Cheers Jamie

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