Sorry, Not Sorry


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I’m tired of feeling sorry.

Oftentimes, the “sorry” is about not having more time to comment on posts. And with my focus on 52/52, my time is even more limited than before.

I don’t know how you do it. I see so many of you commenting regularly on so many blogs and I am totally impressed. I often discover a great new blog to follow and then I notice that you are already there!

Wow. How do you manage that???

But I’ve made a decision.

When it comes to blogging and writing, I can and will no longer feel guilty when I don’t:

  • respond to comments in a timely way. If I could, I would but if I can’t, I’ll get to it eventually;
  • say thanks in a timely fashion for reblogs or mention of my work. If I’m not properly “pinged”, I won’t know that you did;
  • keep up with reading every single one of your posts. Getting momentum IRL and on writing projects means spending less time online. I read wherever and whenever I can;
  • post timely installments of “We Can’t Be Friends. This (unstarted) online story was planned to be written on the fly but inspiration hasn’t struck yet;
  • post more new fiction. New fiction takes time to edit so reposting previous fiction lets me focus on newer work;
  • accept awards and nominations. I appreciate the beautiful gesture but my blog is an award free zone and award questions take a lot of time;
  • follow you back right away or maybe not at all. I never expected to have the number of followers that I do and I can’t follow everyone back. These days, before following a new blog, I think twice because I don’t want to be a hollow follow. And if a blog has no “original” content and only consists of reblogs, I’ll assume that it’s a robot account and will not follow back.

Adding to that already lengthy list, I will no longer feel badly when I have to:

  • say “no” to those who email, asking me to critique their fiction. I’m not a professional or published author. I appreciate that you like my fiction enough to ask but I truly can’t tell you how to write; and
  • decline answering detailed questions about how to increase readership. To be very honest, I don’t actively do anything to increase my readership – I just write about things that interest me and host blogging events for others to share their own blogs once and a while. And I don’t blog for the “follows”.

“Sorry” takes too much energy.

So sorry (not sorry).

©2017 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved.

loosely inspired by “Why Do You Follow Blogs Then Never Visit?”

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14 thoughts on “Sorry, Not Sorry

  1. It’s ok to be honest…some people just have more time than others, which is why I originally opened up the topic for conversation, to get feedback 🙂
    But there are also unfortunately, others who are only solely concerned about building their own following w/out any intention on reciprocating.

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  2. I feel the same on these points. I have no idea how people have time for all of it… and I’m unemployed! These people have jobs! Well, most of them do, to my knowledge. And the follow back — yes, I feel guilty not following back, but if I’m never going to be able to read the blog in question, what’s the point? I’ve been trying to let go of that guilt myself. I find this post inspiring. 🙂

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  3. Spot on. I think blogging is one of Ouse things that will expand to take up every available minute if you let it so limits have to be imposed. I’m definitely on the I’ll get to it when I can approach.

    Slightly embarrassingly I nominated you for the mystery blogger award before I read this. However that is just cos I think your blog is great, you are under no obligation to do anything as a result.

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