For #BlackHistoryMonth, I’m sharing some of my thoughts…

Growing up, we were surrounded by racist neighbors.

It didn’t matter that we had moved onto that street before they had and before I was even born. It only mattered that we were Black (“Go back where you came from!“), that we spoke English (“We hate English people!“) and that we didn’t fit their stereotype of what “des nègres” were supposed to be (you can fill in those colorful blanks).

We endured so many years of stupid sh*t that I could give you a laundry list. But I’ll won’t here.

Those neighbors were brutally bold and boldly brutal but we were too badass to break.

During a family BBQ when I was about 10, one of the most offending neighbors approached my uncle’s (White) wife at our backyard fence and asked her one simple question:

“You married one of those?

I don’t remember my aunt’s response but I clearly remember the look of disgust that clouded the neighbor’s face. My aunt had drunk the Black Kool-Aid and was in need of some deep deprogramming, right?

Funny enough, I heard that the neighbor’s husband sold his business, jacked the mortgage on their house, dumped her for an English-speaking darker-hued woman and moved to Florida with new lady – leaving her high and dry with no choice but to sell the house and move into a tiny apartment on the other side of town…

Sorry but I had a big ol’ laugh when I heard that gossip. Petty, petty me…

On the issue of interracial couplings, here is another interesting “What Would You Do?” video for you.

Quite amazing to see that most women in this salon only cared about two things:

(1) if her man made her happy and

(2) if he was treating her well.

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18 thoughts on ““You Married One Those?” #race #racism #blackhistorymonth

  1. As someone who grew up with a white dad and a black mom, I’m thankful neither side of the family said anything stupid in our presence. With that being said, we certainly got dirty looks from people watching us as a family, and when we moved to an affluent suburb because of my dad’s job during my teenage years, it was a predominantly white town as opposed to the diverse area we used to live. Some of the neighbors didn’t believe my mom was my dad’s wife and some neighbors told my dad “at least you aren’t black” before seeing my mom.

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  2. I think that ignorance can be forgiven, but when a person chooses ignorance despite their exposure to reality on the subject, they have entered into what can only be described as a sin, voluntary ignorance. On that note, living in the American south you would expect (from depicted stereotypes) to see a lot of this idiocy & while it does happen, I see a lot more of people just being people & interacting on that level regardless of a person’s color. I see a lot of interracial couples wander through while I am at work, along with many of their beautiful children, it’s almost more prevalent than couples being of the same ethnicity.

    Seriously though, if the love is real it should be nurtured. Very few kinds of “love” do I judge harshly & that would include inappropriate behavior toward children & stalkers (because eww & fall off the planet already, to both).

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  3. I married for love, the shared love of our God, and the love of laughing together even when we felt like crying. My husband is white. As a Black woman and an author, I sometimes feared that people would feel what I had to say wasn’t relevant, true, or important because my husband is white. Well, I’m through with fearing that.

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  4. Wow, what a powerful combination with your shared childhood memories and that video, it brought tears to my eyes to see more people than not speak out against the hairdresser’s hate, even if they only said it to the actress or her ‘boyfriend’. I’m assuming the hairdresser was only playing a part for the video, or no? If she was, I wonder how hard that was for her to pretend to be so prejudice. Another thing I found incredible was that not a single person dropped a curse word, even though it was obvious they were highly offended. I don’t think I could’ve stopped myself from swearing at least once! LOL

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