“It is white people’s responsibility to be less fragile; people of color don’t need to twist themselves into knots trying to navigate us as painlessly as possible.” — Robin DiAngelo, author of ‘White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism
I have yet to see the 8:46 minute video of the murder that shocked the world.
I mean, do I really need to see another video or image that is just like another Tuesday for people like me?
The answer is no.
To keep my mind and spirit in a decent place, I’ve been quiet on purpose. I don’t need to add my thoughts to the many others online who are doing such an awesome job speaking their minds.
I’m happy that the topic of racism against Black people is making waves and that people are also talking about systemic racism, White fragility and microaggressions.
But I’m a little tired of being on the receiving end of the “I’m so sorry! What can I do” question.
It’s great that people want to know what they can do but at the same time, it’s not up to the Black people in their circles to provide education and a curriculum. Those types of conversations are very draining on us.
But since I’m glad that the rose colored glasses have been torn off the faces of the non-believers, I’ve been offering this four step starter process:
- READ a book or two about anti-racism. By learning, even a little bit, you’ll be able to have a more meaningful conversation with someone else and also be able to reflect on the privileges you have;
- LISTEN and don’t discount the experiences we share with questions like, “Are you sure that happened because you’re Black?” 99% of us know exactly when our race (and nothing else) is an issue for someone;
- ACT when you see someone do something racist. SPEAK UP, when you hear someone say something racist. To be anti-racist, you can’t turn a blind eye. You actually have to act against it and right wrongs ;
- SELF-REFLECT AND COURSE CORRECT. Self-reflect on your own unconscious biases and the microaggressions (funny video) you may be complicit in.