“Every time you feel yourself being pulled into other people’s drama, repeat these words “Not my circus, not my monkeys”.
I stumbled across this on a blogger-friend’s IG account and laughed at how a propos it was for a situation I just dealt with.
Having been a people-pleaser for most of my life, allowing myself to get pulled into other people’s circuses and trying to fix their monkeys used to be easy.
Over the years, I’ve gotten much, much much better at letting other people’s monkeys stay where they belong unless it’s an exceptional circumstance but I recently had an exceptional situation and very glad that it’s over (that I won’t get into detail).
That funny little graphic reminded me that sometimes, even when I have the best of intentions of helping someone see the light, if that person is hell bent on not seeing the forest for the trees, I have to step back – way, way, way back.
It reminded me that while some people can avoid making possibly disastrous/life-threatening mistakes by listening to the lived experiences of others, other people simply need to experience things for themselves.
When that monkey falls hard from the tree, head first and comes running back trying to lay blame because I should have insisted on making them listen, I will need to remember this graphic.
I’ll offer a supportive ear and maybe a banana but zero advice will flow from my lips. I will also not let the monkey back in because I’ve got my own circus monkeys to deal with.
Yeah, I’m talking in crazy riddles (for a reason) but I think that you get the picture.
What words of wisdom speak to you these days? Share with me in the comment box.
See you tomorrow.