“What’s meant to be yours will come to you“.
This is a “nice” piece of advice but getting what we want in life requires taking steps, doing the work and placing ourselves in situations, no matter how uncomfortable, so that those “things” can actually find us. I believe in doing all that you can reasonably do to reach your goal and then leaving it to the universe.
I mean, your dream job is not going to fall into your lap if you don’t send out resumes or network with those who may be in a position to help you, right?
“What’s meant to be yours will come to you” irks me even more when this is said by people who don’t want you to get what you want and actively take steps to disrupt your plans.
So when I hear this advice, I often take it with a grain of salt depending on the advice giver.
What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
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“Time heals all wounds.”
Definitely one of the worst advice given to me because I find it so dismissive at times, especially after I’ve poured my heart out to someone about the hurt I’ve encountered, and get this response.
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OK, now that one bugs me too. Time dulls the pain or makes you forget temporarily but I don’t think that it ever completely heals.
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Most definitely. I actually dislike that advice as well because most make it sound like it’s easy.
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Yeah, it’s usually not easy…
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I think the one that pushes my buttons more so than anything is “It’s ok, you tried. maybe next time” It negates any positive effort or partial successes made, and leaves you feeling like a failure. Meanwhile people are climbing over you to take your place. What they didn’t know is that condescending statement is a challenge accepted!
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I never looked at it that way but thanks for saying it. I’ll think twice before these words ever leave my lips again. I usually say “It’s ok at least you tried” but rarely “maybe next time” because I’m often of the mind that something better may come along.
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I would like to think people want to be supportive rather than insulting or belittling, unfortunately they don’t understand words have power and this power is magnified by the intensity of their delivery.
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To follow my ❤️. Big mistake
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Oh yes, that one can be a bad one if it concerns someone who isn’t right for you for the long haul.
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Yes, learned the hardest. Right now I am enjoying the single and done feel the need to be in a relationship
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“Put a wiggle in that walk.” Psychiatrist’s advice on how to cure infertility. It didn’t work, imagine that. But I researched the heck out of my problem and figured out what it actually was. We have our wonderful tween as a result.
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What a stupid thing to tell someone? And coming from someone who likely has a “Dr’ as a title makes it even worse. More power to you for figuring out what you needed to know.
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Thanks, it was especially outrageous because she was prescribing the antidepressant that was negatively affecting my fertility. It was up to her to know the possible side effects.
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That says a lot about her…
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Yes, it was a time when I lost a lot of respect for and confidence in the Western medical establishment. I had a pregnant gynecologist tell me to put my hands on her belly for good luck. I politely declined.
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Um… that advice doesn’t work for me either.
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Exactly!
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Yes, I used to hear that one a lot after being denied so many opportunities and being looked over. Also, I hate when people use this an excuse not to try…sometimes it Church folk. And I just say, “Faith without works is dead.” Now get off yo butt and do something about your situation.
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Uh, yeah. Don’t get me started on the not trying part…
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Lol! That is lame advice. That’s almost as bad as, “You can do anything, as long as you set your mind to it.”
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Oh yeah…like “mind over matter” i situations where the mind has nothing to do with it,
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Yes… this is bad. I think it encourages sitting back and just letting things happen around you. You know what’s sad? I think part of my brain actually believes this piece of advice. I think it’s why I am stuck and can’t motivate myself to do anything. I think somewhere in my head, I feel like I am the way I am because that’s how it was meant to be. Kind of makes me feel like there’s nothing I can do about it… like it was predestined.
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I believe that if we let it seep in too long, it can become sort of predestined, that is, until you realize what’s going on
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I guess this should be my wake-up call to realize what’s going on. Too bad it won’t drive me to take any action. I think I’m too far gone… and can’t get the thought ‘it’s too late for me’ out of my head.
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It’s not too late for certain things. I’m focusing on the “certain” part.
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I have no idea what those “certain things” are. Everything wrong in my life is due to past circumstances and decisions that I can’t change now. So, yeah, it’s too late for me.
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I won’t list my “certain things” here. Maybe I’ll DM you. 🙂
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