Back in the day and in my younger years, I would have felt angry, like situations when I used to purposely get passed over for opportunities that I should have been offered.
Those systemic barriers taught me to forget about being angry and to simply limit the use of my talents and expertise to what I was there to do. It also taught me decipher if my anger was really due to the missed opportunity or if it was related to being treated in such a shabby way while still being expected to go above and beyond what I was there to do.
It was all about the poor treatment and nothing to do with my peers or competitors.
I have never been one to compete with others. If anything, I compete against myself to see just how far I can stretch myself so even in current times when the odd “thing” happens, it doesn’t bother me.
I will congratulate, acknowledge what has happened, and focus on what I need to do.
When you see peers/competitors getting things you want, how do you react?
Marquessa 
To be honest it use to piss me off seeing girlfriends get good men, and I seem to only date losers. When co workers move to better jobs, that green eye 👀 monster would whisper that should be you. Etc….. Now I have learned to rejoice with people because what’s for me will come in due time.
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I know what you mean. And sometimes those good men are not so good and those better jobs involve so much extra stress that it’s not worth it…
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“… like situations when I used to purposely get passed over for opportunities that I should have been offered.”
I feel ALL of this!
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Sooo, I’m still learning that I need not worry about what others are doing. Just this year, I was, for lack of a better word, jealous of two people, who I perceived to have something I wanted. One person ended up suggesting I be a paid speaker without my knowing, and the other asked me to edit her dissertation, which was paid for through a grant. It was just the thing I need to truly learn my lessons.
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Funny how we are always learning lessons…
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Definitely a personal challenge!
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