You can’t blame yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know about him.
The important thing is that you know NOW so give yourself some grace.
Show yourself some COMPASSION.
Learn the lesson from your experience with him and don’t repeat it.
How compassionate are you with yourself?
Bonus: I love the Therapy For Black Girls podcast. You may want to take a listen to this episode called “The Importance of Self Compassion“. This is not an affiliate link, I’m simply sharing.
Marquessa 
Very, I had to learn though.
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It’s something I had to do- to learn the lessons from my experiences, and to also show myself compassion.
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So true – I often forget about showing compassion to myself. It’s actually quite hard to do (for me anyway).
Visiting from A to Z… AJ Blythe
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Thanks for dropping by. I’ll be visiting my fellow A to Z’ers early next month. 🙂
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I do find it hard to be good to myself. My NP recommended a book to me, but do you think I’ve ever read it? Of course not. Yet I read so much…
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Don’t worry, I have avoided those kind of books as a matter of procrastination too. 🙈
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I also tend to avoid them because anything remotely resembling a ‘self-help’ book always turns me off. They seem to promise some magical solution, but they don’t deliver. And most of them give the same advice, just under different packaging. And it’s always advice I’ve heard before and haven’t been able to make use of…
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So good! Having compassion for yourself is so important. It’s a lesson I’ve been learning (thank you therapy!) especially lately.
Stopping by from A to Z!
– Jayden Vincente
Erotic fiction author
https://jrvincente.com/a-to-z-2021/
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