You can’t blame yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know about him.
The important thing is that you know NOW so give yourself some grace.
Show yourself some COMPASSION.
Learn the lesson from your experience with him and don’t repeat it.
How compassionate are you with yourself?
Bonus: I love the Therapy For Black Girls podcast. You may want to take a listen to this episode called “The Importance of Self Compassion“. This is not an affiliate link, I’m simply sharing.