VIOLENCE of any kind is unacceptable.
Whether it be verbal, emotional, or physical, it is all a hard NO.
If he punches holes in the walls to scare you, leave.
If he forces you to do things you don’t want to do, leave.
If he hits you once, he will do it again.
At the first opportunity that you can do so safely, leave.
Do not listen to his apologies.
Do not give him a chance to escalate with threats against you, your kids and your family if you leave or tell the cops.
As you’ve heard time and time again, your abuser is only as strong as your silence.
Don’t be ashamed to get out at the first signs of VIOLENCE.