N is for Narcissist #AtoZChallenge @AtoZChallenge

Take the time to do some reading up on the meaning of NARCISSIST.

If you recognize that he has these traits, do some more reading, much more reading.

Understand what makes him tick and implement a plan to back away from the situation.

If you happen to recognize yourself in your reading about narcissism (though it is unlikely), well…you have some work to do.

M is for Money #AtoZChallenge @AtoZChallenge

Always have your own MONEY.

Don’t place yourself in a position where you are financially dependent on him because if you need to leave, it will be hard to do.

And just because you have your own money does not mean that you have to go 50/50 on everything. You aren’t his “buddy”.

A real gentleman interested in you would never expect you to always go 50/50.

Oh…and never put all your money in a joint bank account with him. I could tell you a few stories…

K is for Knowledge #AtoZChallenge @AtoZChallenge

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KNOWLEDGE is power.

If you can Google the new people who just moved in next door, you can spend some time googling the guy who is pursuing you.

You need to know about his background and if what he is telling you is actually true. It is a type of due diligence that you should follow to protect yourself and your time.

A “real” background check is not expensive when it comes to your safety and keeping yourself out of a compromising situation. Depending on your courthouse, there are even certain searches you can do for free.

What if he says he’s single but is married or only separated from his wife? What if he has a criminal history that would make you run in the opposite direction? What if he is so financially irresponsible that it would impact you in a future marriage?

If you find undesirable things about him, he doesn’t need to know that YOU know.

KNOWLEDGE will give you an opportunity to slowly back away and out of his life.

J is for Jealous #AtoZChallenge @AtoZChallenge

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Being in a romantic relationship with a JEALOUS man is NOT romantic.

You may think that his level of jealousy equates to how much he loves you but IT DOES NOT.

Jealousy simply means that he is insecure. His insecurities about you and other men will eventually morph into jealousy about the money you earn, the healthy family relationships you have, the quality of friends that will move heaven and earth for you and anything else he can think of.

Then, somehow, his jealousy will all be your fault.

His jealousy and insecurities will lead to miserable consequences for you. You are not responsible for soothing his insecurities away so don’t even try. Save yourself the trouble and find yourself a man who doesn’t have a chip on his shoulder.

A to Z Challenge Sunday Update #2/4 #AtoZChallenge @AtoZChallenge

I enjoy sharing the little that I know.

I always have and always will, which leads me to say this…

For the longest time (and more than a few failed attempts), I have wanted to create a space where a small group of women like me could exchange information, advice and experiences.

More than ever and with the present pandemic situation, I think that this kind of space is important and a few of my peers agree so in the coming weeks, we will look into developing something “limited” and small as a network for women like us.

These peers and I are all busy and in different time zones but we have common and varied interests. We exchange throughout the day on a private chat that is often funny, sometimes very serious but is always interesting and thought that maybe others would like a similar space to chat.

Yes, there are many spaces online that already exist but not only is there sometimes a hefty cost but I personally find that the focus of a lot of these groups is often geared for women under 40 and/or more superficial-type topics.

But that’s just my opinion…

So here is my question to you:

Would you like to join a small online group of women who are 40+ interested in exchanging and sharing privately about life experiences? By private, we mean that your posts/comments would only be seen by those in the group.

Please answer Yes or No in the comment box or in the poll below if you can see it.