Back in the day and in my younger years, I would have felt angry, like situations when I used to purposely get passed over for opportunities that I should have been offered.
Those systemic barriers taught me to forget about being angry and to simply limit the use of my talents and expertise to what I was there to do. It also taught me decipher if my anger was really due to the missed opportunity or if it was related to being treated in such a shabby way while still being expected to go above and beyond what I was there to do.
It was all about the poor treatment and nothing to do with my peers or competitors.
I have never been one to compete with others. If anything, I compete against myself to see just how far I can stretch myself so even in current times when the odd “thing” happens, it doesn’t bother me.
I will congratulate, acknowledge what has happened, and focus on what I need to do.
When you see peers/competitors getting things you want, how do you react?