Book Review: The Unhappy Wife | Dr. KE Garland #unhappyWIFEBook #52things52weeks


I’ve been following Dr. Garland’s blog for a very long time and from the quality of her content and the perspectives she offers on her blog, I knew that her book, “The Unhappy Wife“, would be a worthwhile read.

I was not disappointed.

To be honest, I read Dr. Garland’s book twice – the first time on my long flight to Hawaii and then a second time while lounging by the resort pool. I was totally engaged on both reads.

The stories presented by Dr. Garland provide truth-based experiences through the voices of a number of diverse women – experiences that are deep, thought-provoking and make you think about your own (past) relationships.

This book is smooth and easy read that packs a lot of punch.

Without giving away too because you should read it for yourself, I will say that though every story will resonate with you, there will be at least one that will stand out from the rest for you. “Gina” was the one that definitely caught my attention the most – I could truly feel her fear.

Don’t let the title fool you – you don’t need to be married to read this book. Whether you are married, dating, happily single, or thinking about jumping back into the dating pool, the love lessons in this book are a good reminder for ALL of us. And if you dig a little deeper into yourself, you’ll see that the lessons can easily be extrapolated into the other areas of your life.

No matter your experiences, past and/or present, this book is a good reminder that (1) putting your needs first, especially as a woman and trusting your instincts are NOT selfish acts; and (2) allowing yourself to be disrespected in any way, shape or form is a way of disrespecting yourself.

I would highly recommend this book to all who need to a reminder that they are worthy of love and respect but that they must give themselves both first.

Support a fellow blogger by ordering your own copy of “The Unhappy Wife” here from her website or on Amazon.

You can also find Dr. Garland’s other other publications here.


Next book review:  In The Best Interest of the Child by Felicia Denise.



Sorry, Not Sorry #52things52weeks #simplymarquessa


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I’m tired of feeling sorry.

Oftentimes, the “sorry” is about not having more time to comment on posts. And with my focus on 52/52, my time is even more limited than before.

I don’t know how you do it. I see so many of you commenting regularly on so many blogs and I am totally impressed. I often discover a great new blog to follow and then I notice that you are already there!

Wow. How do you manage that???

But I’ve made a decision.

When it comes to blogging and writing, I can and will no longer feel guilty when I don’t:

  • respond to comments in a timely way. If I could, I would but if I can’t, I’ll get to it eventually;
  • say thanks in a timely fashion for reblogs or mention of my work. If I’m not properly “pinged”, I won’t know that you did;
  • keep up with reading every single one of your posts. Getting momentum IRL and on writing projects means spending less time online. I read wherever and whenever I can;
  • post timely installments of “We Can’t Be Friends. This (unstarted) online story was planned to be written on the fly but inspiration hasn’t struck yet;
  • post more new fiction. New fiction takes time to edit so reposting previous fiction lets me focus on newer work;
  • accept awards and nominations. I appreciate the beautiful gesture but my blog is an award free zone and award questions take a lot of time;
  • follow you back right away or maybe not at all. I never expected to have the number of followers that I do and I can’t follow everyone back. These days, before following a new blog, I think twice because I don’t want to be a hollow follow. And if a blog has no “original” content and only consists of reblogs, I’ll assume that it’s a robot account and will not follow back.

Adding to that already lengthy list, I will no longer feel badly when I have to:

  • say “no” to those who email, asking me to critique their fiction. I’m not a professional or published author. I appreciate that you like my fiction enough to ask but I truly can’t tell you how to write; and
  • decline answering detailed questions about how to increase readership. To be very honest, I don’t actively do anything to increase my readership – I just write about things that interest me and host blogging events for others to share their own blogs once and a while. And I don’t blog for the “follows”.

“Sorry” takes too much energy.

So sorry (not sorry).

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loosely inspired by “Why Do You Follow Blogs Then Never Visit?”

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