Great Sex Requires Effort #sex #love #romance #weekendcoffeeshare

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Just enough intensity …anticipating what will happen next …before diving deeper…visualizing just how …

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*This updated post from February 2017 now includes a link to a short scene I wrote*

Rekindling passion was part of my 52 Things In 52 Weeks challenge, that is, my passion for reading.

I signed up for a Kindle Unlimited because I’m always hearing about how writers should read outside of their genre and it seemed the most efficient way to have access to tons of books.

Mind you, I’m guessing my genre of writing fits into “women’s fiction” but I knew that I couldn’t go wrong with choosing books under the “romance” category. Or so I thought…

I think that the definition of “romance” may have changed when I wasn’t looking.

I started and stopped reading a number of books after just a few chapters, either because lots of Easter Eggs and back story were given away within the first few pages or because the book was simply a string of sex scenes strung together by an anemic storyline.

Call me old-fashioned but great sex scenes in a novel require more than sexually explicit words tossed carelessly onto a page. Or a bed.

In my opinion, writing a great sex scene requires effort, patience and some kind of love thrown into the mix in order to give the characters a happy ending.

That pun was totally intended! 🙂

But there was one e-book that had me shaking my head at just how quickly things unfolded and then deflated.

The breakdown of the book?

4% : Female character (FC) tells her boyfriend that she’s pregnant and the boyfriend dumps her.

6%: FC gets upset, storms out, has a minor accident and is helped by a sexy rugged stranger who takes her home because he lives nearby.

11%: FC tells sexy man her entire story and that she is pregnant. There’s a storm brewing so sexy man insists that she stay in his guest room.

13%: FC and sexy man fall into bed. He declares his love for her and tells her that he is ready and willing to love her and her baby.

Really?

All of that at the 13% of the book? Isn’t that a little quick? Where could the rest of the story possibly go?

I was curious enough to speed read through the rest of the 87% so I really can tell you where the rest of the story went:

Spiraling fast downhill until it crashed and burned.

  • No tense sensual build up between the characters.
  • No slow burn towards that first kiss.
  • No flirty moments between the two characters.

Nothing. Nada. Nein.

I’m not looking for the chaste vanilla of the Harlequin romance books my Granny devoured or the BDSM of Fifty Shades of Grey. There’s nothing wrong with themthey just aren’t my preference.

I can do without the 20 different words to describe the same body part and the blow-by-blow accounts of which body part went where and at what frequency…

I like my “romance” with just enough intensity between main characters that leaves me anticipating what will happen next between them. Romantic scenes that make me want to read and reread certain scenes before diving deeper into the book. Visualizing just how a scene would unfold in my mind.

Less is more.

And a little imagination is good for the soul.

Update: When I reread this post, I decided to write a “sexy” short story. Inspired by being on the beach, I started with one sexy scene and worked my way back to drafting a story line.

If you’re interested and over 18+, feel free to take a read via the link below.

*Mature 18+ content warning*

Straight, No Chaser

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What Makes A Man Sexier

This is a continuation of Cute, Handsome or Sexy.

What is a “sexy” man?

Of course, we each have our own definition and it can be quite subjective.

But I’ll tell you what makes a “sexy” man even sexier IMHO.

He’s a man who:

  • can hold an intelligent conversation about current events or discuss the latest book he’s read (extra points if it is an actual physical book which means he’s a little old school);

  • is confident in his talents and abilities (not to be mistaken with arrogance);

  • has a sense of humor, maybe just a little geeky (like Bruno from “Lord of the Files“) and can laugh at himself or is a little self-effacing (but just not as geeky as this guy below);

  • makes use of “please”, “thank you” and knows what “manners” means;

  • remembers the small and subtle details about things and more importantly, small details about YOU;
  • walks the walk, talks the talk, says what he means, means what he says…

You get the picture.

I don’t know about you but for me, substance in a man is sexy and there has to be some real steak behind any sizzle he may have.

Sizzle. Steak. Substance. Sexy.

Oh…I’m not saying that I’d ignore a little stubble and a great smile, nor would I throw this guy out for getting crumbs in the bed…

Uh, definitely no.

What I am saying is that “sexy” is much more than just the superficial. Sexy is in the eye of the beholder.

What do you say? What do you find “sexy”?

All Rights Reserved ©2017 Marquessa Matthews

Disclaimer: I have no copyrights to the song and/or video and/or hyperlinks to songs and/or videos and/or gifs above. No copyright infringement intended.

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Cute, Handsome or Sexy

I was scrolling through some of my old posts and came across a #ManCrushMonday post from when I was trying out some Twitter trend tags, hence the idea for today’s post…

Years ago, I worked at a popular establishment that had hundreds of clients coming through the doors every day. It was crazy busy, always fun and the entire staff got along famously. As part of the “brand”, we couldn’t use our real names so I decided to call myself “Midnight” for the summer. Truth be told, it was kind of cool to be recognized by that name off-the-clock when I least expected it.

And NO, it wasn’t that kind of establishment so get your head out of the gutter – it had to do with gaming!

But I digress…

I often worked the same shift as Jean*, a guy who could have been a model for a cologne commercial. Actually, Jean was a working model/actor/aspiring singer with the typical chiseled face, high cheekbones and shoulder length hair that was popular back then. Jean was a sweetheart of a guy and it was always amusing to see how many female clients would do a double-take at him, especially when he would practice his “model moves” with me like the one above (with his shirt “on” of course).

Because it was always so busy, Jean would often play the “cute, handsome or sexy” game with me to see if we had the same taste in men. Whenever a man he found interesting walked in, Jean would say “cute, handsome or sexy” to me and tell me his “rating”. Then I would either agree or disagree.

Looking back, I can see how politically incorrect this was but since it was Jean’s game, don’t frown at me

We always agreed on the “cute” and “handsome”, but it was clear that his “sexy” and my “sexy” differed and that led us into a number of conversation.

For Jean, it was all based on a guy’s looks while for me, “sexy” was more than looks – “sexy” included a man’s attitude, intelligence, confidence and how he carried himself.

I mean, a man can be “sexy” without being cute or gorgeous – he could be your average-looking man with a je ne sais pas quoi about him like, for example, Javier Bardem. He’s not my cup of tea but he’s got something going for him. Then again, it could be his accent too…

 

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I can already see this post is going long so I’ll stop here with this question:

What do you think? Can someone be sexy without necessarily being hot, cute or attractive?

And if so, could you name a celebrity who would fit that bill?

*not his real name

All Rights Reserved ©2017 Marquessa Matthews

Disclaimer: I have no copyrights to the song and/or video and/or hyperlinks to songs and/or videos and/or gifs above. No copyright infringement intended.

 

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