Great Sex Requires Effort #sex #love #romance #weekendcoffeeshare

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Just enough intensity …anticipating what will happen next …before diving deeper…visualizing just how …

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*This updated post from February 2017 now includes a link to a short scene I wrote*

Rekindling passion was part of my 52 Things In 52 Weeks challenge, that is, my passion for reading.

I signed up for a Kindle Unlimited because I’m always hearing about how writers should read outside of their genre and it seemed the most efficient way to have access to tons of books.

Mind you, I’m guessing my genre of writing fits into “women’s fiction” but I knew that I couldn’t go wrong with choosing books under the “romance” category. Or so I thought…

I think that the definition of “romance” may have changed when I wasn’t looking.

I started and stopped reading a number of books after just a few chapters, either because lots of Easter Eggs and back story were given away within the first few pages or because the book was simply a string of sex scenes strung together by an anemic storyline.

Call me old-fashioned but great sex scenes in a novel require more than sexually explicit words tossed carelessly onto a page. Or a bed.

In my opinion, writing a great sex scene requires effort, patience and some kind of love thrown into the mix in order to give the characters a happy ending.

That pun was totally intended! 🙂

But there was one e-book that had me shaking my head at just how quickly things unfolded and then deflated.

The breakdown of the book?

4% : Female character (FC) tells her boyfriend that she’s pregnant and the boyfriend dumps her.

6%: FC gets upset, storms out, has a minor accident and is helped by a sexy rugged stranger who takes her home because he lives nearby.

11%: FC tells sexy man her entire story and that she is pregnant. There’s a storm brewing so sexy man insists that she stay in his guest room.

13%: FC and sexy man fall into bed. He declares his love for her and tells her that he is ready and willing to love her and her baby.

Really?

All of that at the 13% of the book? Isn’t that a little quick? Where could the rest of the story possibly go?

I was curious enough to speed read through the rest of the 87% so I really can tell you where the rest of the story went:

Spiraling fast downhill until it crashed and burned.

  • No tense sensual build up between the characters.
  • No slow burn towards that first kiss.
  • No flirty moments between the two characters.

Nothing. Nada. Nein.

I’m not looking for the chaste vanilla of the Harlequin romance books my Granny devoured or the BDSM of Fifty Shades of Grey. There’s nothing wrong with themthey just aren’t my preference.

I can do without the 20 different words to describe the same body part and the blow-by-blow accounts of which body part went where and at what frequency…

I like my “romance” with just enough intensity between main characters that leaves me anticipating what will happen next between them. Romantic scenes that make me want to read and reread certain scenes before diving deeper into the book. Visualizing just how a scene would unfold in my mind.

Less is more.

And a little imagination is good for the soul.

Update: When I reread this post, I decided to write a “sexy” short story. Inspired by being on the beach, I started with one sexy scene and worked my way back to drafting a story line.

If you’re interested and over 18+, feel free to take a read via the link below.

*Mature 18+ content warning*

Straight, No Chaser

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If You Subscribe To My Newsletter… #weekendcoffeeshare #writerslife

I’m back!

For those of you following me on Instagram, thanks for keeping up and enjoying all the pretty pictures and videos I posted. I am now suffering from a post-vacation-lack-of-the-sun-sand-ocean-beach mini-depression

Oh well, the memories will give me something to think back to on raining days like today…and give me an excuse to start planning the next trip! 🙂

Back to today’s share…

Today’s post is to clarify what my newsletter by email is all about.

If you enjoy my fiction and are interested in my journey to become a published author, you should sign up for my newsletter which I send about twice a month.

By subscribing to the newsletter by email, you will receive :

  • a free copy of the Living To Die” novella I’m revising right now and planning on self-publishing;
  • insider news and advance access to excerpts and sample chapters of stories I’m developing;
  • a chance to be beta readers and provide your feedback on plots, storylines and character names;
  • access to a “For Subscribers Only” Page (under development).

As you can see, the newsletter is different than just signing up to receive my WordPress blog posts to your inbox.

I hope to see you back here and on the newsletter email list too!

Have a wonderful weekend!

M  xoxo

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5 Cleaning Tips for When You Really Don’t Have Time #weekendcoffeeshare

I read somewhere in the blogsphere that “top five” or “best tips” are quite popular as posts.

So I have decided to share my top 5 cleaning tips that will force you to clean your place when you really don’t have the time.

 

Because let’s face it, if you had the time, you wouldn’t be “forced” to do it, right?

Tip #1. Prepare your large “commute to-go” mug with homemade iced coffee on top of the stove (instead of on the actual kitchen counter like normal people). When you reach to pick it up, make sure that you knock it over, spilling its contents behind and down the two sides of the stove. This will force you to pull the stove out and clean an area that you haven’t seen or cleaned since you moved in;

Tip #2. Instead of pouring yourself some sour cherry juice into a glass, be lazy and decide to drink it straight from the bottle. But before you do, don’t check that the cork is secure and shake, shake, shake. When the red juice flies all over your white kitchen walls, you’ll have no choice but to wash them with TSP or maybe even repaint;

Tip #3. When a relative calls and asks if they can stay with you when they are in town, you say okay. Then, when they tell you to pick them up at your local airport in 5 hours, go have yourself a mini break down and then get crackin’.  You’ll speed clean the entire house within 3 hours (just don’t let anyone open the closets);

Tip #4. Smoothies for breakfast? Keep the lid of the blender just a little loose before you press the “On” button. Refer back to #1 and #2.

And my ultimate favorite…

Tip #5. Have yourself a nice lobster dinner the night before leaving for a long (summer) weekend and forget to take the “inside” garbage to the “outside” garbage container. I’ll let you discover on your own what kind of cleaning this will entail.

Fortunately, I have only followed each one of the tips above once.

Let me know the results if you decide to try any! 🙂

©2017 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved.

Originally post August 27, 2015

 

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Get Your Freak On #weekendcoffeeshare #netflix #podcasts

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If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I discovered some great “new” podcasts and Netflix finds while I was purging and shredding all that paperwork a few weeks ago.

Actually, I should say that those “new” finds discovered me since they popped up as recommendations and I simply clicked on the suggestion.

They were surprisingly good suggestions so on this #weekendcoffeeshare, I thought that I would pass them along to you!

Come on, it’s Saturday… You can spend a little time and get your freak on with some of these below, right? And if you like them, let me know!

Netflix

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“No Tomorrow” (Netflix) suits my current mood right now about of shaking life up and taking a few chances. I’ve watched a few first episodes and it’s totally cute. Evie is boring and straight-laced so when she meets cutie (and crazy) Xavier, things get interesting…and NOT boring.

Minimalism: A Documentary” (Netflix) – which also fits into my renewed “declutter and simplify” mindset. The entire documentary is worth watching and their podcasts are great too.

Podcasts about writing

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The Art & Business of Writing – I finally caught up on their most recent podcasts. These shows are always informative – interviews, tips and advice.

Writing Class Radio – I love storytelling and this podcast reminds of the Moth and Snap Judgment.

Enjoy!

M

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Staying Sane On A 12 Hour Flight #weekendcoffeeshare #travel #52things52weeks

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If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you that my flight from New York to Honolulu was a very long 12 hour flight.

11 hours and 58 minutes to be exact.

I’ve never been in a hurry to take a trip down to Hawaii, Australia, or any of those other long distance places due to the number of flight hours involved.  The most I’ve done in one sitting has been six hours to London and Paris.

But I wasn’t about to forego the “travel to a place I’ve never been” part of my 52 Things In 52 Weeks list so I knew that I would have to pull everything out of my shallow bag of travel tricks which included:

  • wearing compression socks and getting up every few hours;
  • a face mask (like the one my nail technician uses) in my purse in case I ended up next to a cougher/sneezer (yeah, I’m that paranoid);
  • a fully charged Zune, cellphone and tablet with ebooks, including one of the books at the top of my TBR list,  The Unhappy Wife by Dr. KE Garland;
  • my writing notebook and a new pen;
  • an assortment of candy and nibbles from my pre-flight visit to Bulk Barn;
  • a newly purchased neck pillow;
  • a blanket;
  • a fresh and fully loaded baguette if the flight meal sucked.

Time passed. I was feeling good, feeling cool and feeling confident. 

I had the situation “handled” à la Olivia Pope-style until I saw this on my monitor:

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WTF?

Only 1 hour and 43 minutes had passed???

No. Freakin’. Way.

I broke out in an anxiety induced cold sweat and refused to look at the monitor again for the rest of the flight.

We were packed so tight in those seats that I couldn’t even access my carry-on at my feet. Actually, to get into my carry-on, I had to get up, get on my knees (literally) in the aisle, put said carry-on into the seat and then reverse the process.

It was THAT tight.

At least the in-flight meal and ample beverage service was better than I expected. Then again, what do I know? The last time I had plane food was circa 2005.

From that point on, I cranked up the Bruno Mars on my Zune, watched a few action movies, fell asleep, ate too many dark chocolate coconut covered almonds…anything to fill the hours until I truly thought that my knees would break off.

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Would I ever take another 12 hour flight again?

Hmmm…

Pros: less chance of airline losing my luggage, a decent hot meal, a hot snack, ample beverage service, complimentary blanket, earbuds, pillow, eye rest…

Cons: feeling like a sardine in a hot tin can, wondering why the lady behind me kept forcing her feet into the back of my seat (I had to get up and give her the evil eye for her to stop), silently cursing at myself for not thinking about an upgrade to first class with points…

Yeah, I guess that I would do it again if I had to. Hawaii was worth the pain but using loyalty points for an upgrade will be at the top of my list!

Images and content ©2017 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved.

This post was inspired by 10 Ways to Survive a Long-Haul Flight | IndependentTraveler.com

 

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Book Review: The Unhappy Wife | Dr. KE Garland #unhappyWIFEBook #52things52weeks

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I’ve been following Dr. Garland’s blog for a very long time and from the quality of her content and the perspectives she offers on her blog, I knew that her book, “The Unhappy Wife“, would be a worthwhile read.

I was not disappointed.

To be honest, I read Dr. Garland’s book twice – the first time on my long flight to Hawaii and then a second time while lounging by the resort pool. I was totally engaged on both reads.

The stories presented by Dr. Garland provide truth-based experiences through the voices of a number of diverse women – experiences that are deep, thought-provoking and make you think about your own (past) relationships.

This book is smooth and easy read that packs a lot of punch.

Without giving away too because you should read it for yourself, I will say that though every story will resonate with you, there will be at least one that will stand out from the rest for you. “Gina” was the one that definitely caught my attention the most – I could truly feel her fear.

Don’t let the title fool you – you don’t need to be married to read this book. Whether you are married, dating, happily single, or thinking about jumping back into the dating pool, the love lessons in this book are a good reminder for ALL of us. And if you dig a little deeper into yourself, you’ll see that the lessons can easily be extrapolated into the other areas of your life.

No matter your experiences, past and/or present, this book is a good reminder that (1) putting your needs first, especially as a woman and trusting your instincts are NOT selfish acts; and (2) allowing yourself to be disrespected in any way, shape or form is a way of disrespecting yourself.

I would highly recommend this book to all who need to a reminder that they are worthy of love and respect but that they must give themselves both first.

Support a fellow blogger by ordering your own copy of “The Unhappy Wife” here from her website or on Amazon.

You can also find Dr. Garland’s other other publications here.

M

Next book review:  In The Best Interest of the Child by Felicia Denise.

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Aloha Mahalo #weekendcoffeeshare #52things52weeks #hawaii #travel #simplymarquessa

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Aloha you!

If we were having coffee right now, you would probably tell me that you already knew about my recent trip to Hawaii because you saw the pretty pictures and short videos on my Instagram feed.

When the Hawaii opportunity presented itself, I jumped on it for three reasons:

(1) it would be warmer than the weather up here in the good old North;

(2) I spent weeks putting the house back together and needed a change of scenery and

(3) I could complete the “travel to a place I’ve never been before” on my 52 Things in 52 Weeks list.

Maui and Oahu? It was an amazing time with great weather, friendly people and I sampled some local-ish cuisine. After surviving 15 hours worth of flight time just to get there, whatever bug that I caught (Hawaii was getting hit with influenza), I was determined to make the most of it and I did.

Unfortunately, I didn’t get a chance to dunk a malasada from Leonard’s into a nice cup of Kona coffee while I was there but I do have a new appreciation for the Hawaii Five-O tv series (picture taken in lobby of pre-Maui hotel before the flight):

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If we were having coffee right now, I would tell you all about the trip in great detail but not right now.

Instead, I’ll write a few “Hawaii” posts, here and there, but will likely use it as the theme for April 2017’s A to Z Challenge

In the meantime, you can admire the photos below and for more, check out the rest of them on Instagram.

Mahalo!

Images and content ©2017 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved.

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