Giving Fear A Voice #writerwednesday

 

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Fear is scary.

We all have something in our lives that we’re afraid of. And as you read this, you’re likely thinking about the fears you’re struggling with right now.

Fear comes in all shapes and forms and one person’s fear is no greater than anyone else’s. 

Fear is fear.

For some, embarassment and shame stops them from speaking about it while others seek comfort in it, allowing themselves to stay safe and quiet in a corner of status quo. Either way, silence keeps us from ever knowing what joy and beauty could be waiting around the corner.

Giving a voice to fear makes it less scary, especially when you realize that you aren’t alone. And when the fear is less scary, the more power you feel to do something to about it.

©2018 Marquessa Matthews

 

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How Addicted Are You To Blogging? #writerwednesday

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Dear New Friends and Old Blogging Friends,

Like I mentioned in a previous post, the “pull” of blogging and networking is addictive. Making new friends, reading each others’ posts, the instant gratification of feedback…yes, it’s all very addictive.

How addicted are you to blogging? And if you’ve been blogging for years, do you fear that you will eventually run out of words?

Share with me in the comments section.

©2018 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved. (Updated from 2015)

My “Pet Peeves” #selfFULL #tuesdaythoughts

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It’s a New Year and I’m reposting this for you lovelies who would like to get to know me a little better.

Bisous,

Marquessa xoxo

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Okay…so in no specific order, here are random things that peeve me.

You can judge me silently as silently as you want…

  • People who use their speakerphones or have Facetime conversations in waiting rooms (especially at the hospital) to pass the time. Have they forgotten that they are NOT within the four walls of their home and that no one else is interested in being part of their conversation? Just leave the waiting area and go outside!

  • Do not call and tell me that you have “something really important to tell me but I’ll you later“. How about you say NOTHING until you can really tell me later? If your intention is to freak me out until you do tell me, you will have succeeded. And the next time I see you in person, you will be cruisin’ for a brusin’ if it turns out to not be serious.

  • Being the only one in a washroom with a bunch of empty stalls and someone decides to occupy the one right next to mine. Really? Are you kidding me?

  • A waiter, chef or anyone else handling my food with a beard long enough to require a rubber band or its own postal code (zipcode for the Americans out there). BTW, I have no clue who this guy is…he just has the perfect rubber band for my example;

  • Hair in the bathtub, sink or on the soap…GROSS. Wash it down the drain, pick it off the soap, I don’t care what you do – just get rid of it please!

  • Why is it that the “pants on the ground” style is still around? I don’t need to see your knock off brand-named underwear and though I may have a slight aversion to “skinny” pants, I’ll take that over stupid pants any day.

  • Being on hold for FOREVER with your doctor’s office/airline company/service provider/etc only to get cut off as soon as an agent picks up;

  • A “man bun” if you don’t have the swagger to pull it off or the additional “accessories” to distract me away from the said bun because my eyes are glued somewhere else. I may give you a pass if you’re an older surfer dude like my Galen character in “Living To Die”.

There are plenty of others but those are just a few of the pet peeves that came to me.

What are some of yours?

I promise not to judge…well, at least not out loud. 🙂

All Rights Reserved ©2018 Marquessa Matthews (updated from 2017)

Disclaimer: I have no copyrights to the song and/or video and/or hyperlinks to songs and/or videos and/or gifs above. No copyright infringement intended.

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“Lions and Tigers and Bears! Oh My!” #writerwednesday #ww

Two days into the New Year and I was already drowning in temptation…

After reading all of your blog posts about starting fun blog challenges, I was feeling a little scared like Dorothy in the forest.

I even found myself singing “Lions and tigers and bears! Oh my! Lions and tigers and bears! Oh my!” under my breath yesterday as a reminder to keep myself focused (and no, I can’t sing to save my life).

I love a good WP challenge but I decided pre-2018 to not embark on anything new until I eliminate a few things from my “writing to-do” list.

So there will be no Color Your World, #52weeks52stories, Photo Challenges and Daily Prompts for me – not for a long while. I was even toying with seeing how some of what I am already doing could “link up” with them but no, even that will take time away from what I need to do.

I can’t let myself get gobbled up by the wonderfully enticing lions and tigers and bears…

*Sigh*

All Rights Reserved ©2018 Marquessa Matthews

Disclaimer: I have no copyrights to the song and/or video and/or hyperlinks to songs and/or videos and/or gifs above. No copyright infringement intended.

Make 2018 YOUR Year! #happynewyear2018

It’s almost the beginning of a spanking brand new year! Are you excited?

Like many of you, I’ve started making tiny changes to my blog, like updating headers (yeah, that’s me on the beach you see up there), taking down posts I no longer like, making changes to categories, tags…It will be an off/on ongoing work in progress but that’s okay – cleaning up my blog space is giving me ideas on how to streamline even more.

As the new year progresses, you will notice other changes to my blog, mainly the fact that I will be repurposing some previous posts by updating its’ content this January (and more often). For now, most new content will be limited to the One Minute Fiction on Mondays, a few #WriterWednesdays and, Song Lyric Sundays.

Why?

I’ll be busy with a few “secret”/personal projects during the first few months of 2018 so I need to take a step back and make those a priority. I apologize in advance if you end up reading a post that sounds vaguely familiar!

Because of those personal projects, I’ve been forced to get back onto Facebook (yes, I said “forced” because I’m not that keen/savvy on social media in general) so if you would like to connect with me on FB feel free to send me a “Friend Request” here. Of course, I will still respond to comments on the blog but not as quickly as I usually do. I’m also on Twitter and Instagram under the same handle: @simplymarquessa. I’m already connected with lots of you there too.

I hope that this new year brings you all that your little heart desires and that the next 365 days are filled with good health (most important), wealth, prosperity and abundant happiness!

I no longer make resolutions since they are usually a recipe for disappointment. But my arms are open to whatever this new year has to offer me and what I have to offer to it.

Right now, my objective is to remember “get started” and “to keep going”:

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into smaller manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.”

–Mark Twain

What about you? How will you make this year YOUR year?

Bisous,

M xoxo

The Fun Of A Threesome #weekendcoffeeshare #amwriting #lyricalfictionfriday

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Now that I’ve got your attention about threesomes (which I will get to in a minute), I wanted to say THANK YOU to all those that have participating in and sharing my #LyricalFictionFriday Challenge . I truly appreciate your participation and totally enjoy reading YOUR fiction.

In addition to the “loose rules” listed on the #LyricalFictionFriday Challenge Page, please remember that:

  • Your participation can include creative non-fiction, fiction, poetry, prose;
  • Your piece can be as long, short, paranormal, romantic, anything else that you want;
  • There are no word limits so no need to apologize for longer works;
  • Participate when the mood strikes you. Don’t stress yourself if you can’t participate every week;
  • If you don’t like the week’s lyric, you can choose an older one (just pingback to the correct post);
  • Feel free to “re-purpose” previous works of fiction if you can’t create a new piece – that is what I will continue doing for the next while; and
  • the upcoming lyrics are posted on the Page if you would like an advance peek; and that

I’m also continuing my partnership with two other lovely writers-bloggers to promote my challenge Lyrical Fiction Friday Reveal on Thursdays as I cross-promote their respective challenges on Mondays and Saturdays.

  • Nortina’s One Minute Fiction Challenge on Mondays at Lovely Curses where Nortina posts a prompt (word, phrase, photo) and your challenge is to write a piece a piece of fiction in one minute. I will admit to cheating over the past weeks by using the “minute” to find endings to some unfinished pieces but I promise to be good in 2018!
  • Helen’s Song Lyric Sunday Challenge Reveal on Saturdays at This Thing Called Life One Word At A Time where Helen posts a “theme” on Saturdays and your job is to dig through your music collection and post your take on theme on your blog on Sundays.

Like I said, there is fun in a threesome because Nortina, Helen and I are providing you with three opportunities to participate and make new friends!

If you participate when I reblog Nortina and Helen’s posts on Mondays and Saturdays, please be sure to participate directly on their respective blogs so that other participants can see your post and comment!

Take moment now to check out their blogs and prepare to have some fun!

Cheers and enjoy the holiday weekend!

M xoxo

“The Baby Conspiracy” #fiction #holidayshortfiction

*Christmas-flavored fiction*

“Don’t ever do it.”

Her voice is a whisper over the phone. I assume that people are in the room with her because she sounds afraid of being overheard and there is holiday music in the background.

“Don’t do what?” I’m confused since all I asked was how she and the baby are doing now they are finally home after all the complications.

“Have a baby. Don’t do it. It’s a trick. One huge fucking conspiracy.”

“Uh…”

“I’m telling you, it’s a fucking trick. All of your friends with kids encourage you to do it, tell you how great and rewarding it is. But it’s not true. They just want you to jump into that miserable, sinking ship so that you can drown with them.”

How am I supposed to respond to that?

“You’re just exhausted after all that you went through and have post-baby blues. I know that you must be missing your mother too and it’s also almost Christmas so you’re stressed out…”

“All I want for Christmas is my fucking life back! This has to be a conspiracy because they all know awful it really is before you do it and push you to do it. They only tell you the fucking truth after its too late,” she continues to whisper as if I didn’t even say a word.

Hormones, exhaustion, the burden of new mommy-hood responsibilities and the holiday season are taking a huge toll on her. She needs to vent to someone outside her family, someone who isn’t going to judge her for feeling unmommy-like.

But strangely enough, it isn’t the first time I’ve heard that theory from a few women in my entourage.

Is she right? Is there some kind of conspiracy going on?

As I remember all the lonely days of finding the courage to give myself the strict regimen of injections, I slide my hand across my secretly growing belly and am no longer sure I want to put that theory to the test all by myself.

©2016 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved.

Originally posted on February 4, 2016, adapted in December 2017

This fiction inspired by this article.

 

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