The Bots Among Us

I always knew that I had bots.

“Bots” as in spam comments that usually end up in my Junk folder where they belong.

But what’s up with the bots that inflate my number of followers?

I supposedly “lost” 1000 followers while I was away.

Yeah, 1000.

Months ago, I was constantly getting notifications about new followers and wondered how these “readers” were finding me when I wasn’t doing anything different than usual. I simply went about my business because I don’t really care about numbers.

But I still don’t understand the “why” behind fake followers.

Do they hope that I follow back without checking them out first? Will they eventually try to sell me something? Is it a creepy way to get into my electronic device?

Do you know what’s up with fake followers?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m happy that 1000 fakes are out of my hair.

I mean, I only want to interact and attract real living people, like readers and friends who want to follow my musings, sign up for my email list and eventually read what I self-publish.

Bots can’t do any of those things…

As a writer, does it bother you to see your number of followers drop? And as a reader, are you influenced by the number of followers a blog has?






How Addicted Are You To Blogging? #writerwednesday

addicted to blogging

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Dear New Friends and Old Blogging Friends,

Like I mentioned in a previous post, the “pull” of blogging and networking is addictive. Making new friends, reading each others’ posts, the instant gratification of feedback…yes, it’s all very addictive.

How addicted are you to blogging? And if you’ve been blogging for years, do you fear that you will eventually run out of words?

Share with me in the comments section.

©2018 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved. (Updated from 2015)

My “Pet Peeves” #selfFULL #tuesdaythoughts

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It’s a New Year and I’m reposting this for you lovelies who would like to get to know me a little better.


Marquessa xoxo

Okay…so in no specific order, here are random things that peeve me.

You can judge me silently as silently as you want…

  • People who use their speakerphones or have Facetime conversations in waiting rooms (especially at the hospital) to pass the time. Have they forgotten that they are NOT within the four walls of their home and that no one else is interested in being part of their conversation? Just leave the waiting area and go outside!

  • Do not call and tell me that you have “something really important to tell me but I’ll you later“. How about you say NOTHING until you can really tell me later? If your intention is to freak me out until you do tell me, you will have succeeded. And the next time I see you in person, you will be cruisin’ for a brusin’ if it turns out to not be serious.

  • Being the only one in a washroom with a bunch of empty stalls and someone decides to occupy the one right next to mine. Really? Are you kidding me?

  • A waiter, chef or anyone else handling my food with a beard long enough to require a rubber band or its own postal code (zipcode for the Americans out there). BTW, I have no clue who this guy is…he just has the perfect rubber band for my example;

  • Hair in the bathtub, sink or on the soap…GROSS. Wash it down the drain, pick it off the soap, I don’t care what you do – just get rid of it please!

  • Why is it that the “pants on the ground” style is still around? I don’t need to see your knock off brand-named underwear and though I may have a slight aversion to “skinny” pants, I’ll take that over stupid pants any day.

  • Being on hold for FOREVER with your doctor’s office/airline company/service provider/etc only to get cut off as soon as an agent picks up;

  • A “man bun” if you don’t have the swagger to pull it off or the additional “accessories” to distract me away from the said bun because my eyes are glued somewhere else. I may give you a pass if you’re an older surfer dude like my Galen character in “Living To Die”.

There are plenty of others but those are just a few of the pet peeves that came to me.

What are some of yours?

I promise not to judge…well, at least not out loud. 🙂

All Rights Reserved ©2018 Marquessa Matthews (updated from 2017)

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Writing And Not Writing

What do you do when you’re not writing?

To be honest, I lead a pretty boring life that is very busy. Then again, most of us lead boringly busy lives to some degree, right?

Nothing fancy, super exciting or Hollywood-esque.

Could “boring” be the new black?

Somehow I don’t think so.

I guess the trick to livening up life is to sprinkle a little of the things you enjoy into your day-to-day whenever you can.

When you are not writing, what do you do shake things up and enjoy life more?

I’ll tell you mine if you tell me yours…

©2018 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved. (updated from 2015)

I Write Because… #amwriting

I write because …

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I write because …

…I locked my favorite pen away many years ago and chose to forget where I kept the key. And now that I have rediscovered it, I’ll never lock it away again;

…The stories and characters that live in me need to be set free;

…I love being the puppet master to what my characters don’t say and don’t do;

…Writing is a pure and simple pleasure that simultaneously makes time stand still and the hours fly by;

…Writing soothes and quiets my soul.

I write because life is just a story and I’ve got a pen.

Why do you write? What keeps inspiring you?

©2017 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved.











Writing About What You Know #amwriting

I base my stories on what I know and my experiences. I can’t simply throw caution to the wind and totally go with my imagination.

I can’t write about dragons and vampires. And I could never see myself writing about long-blond haired Fabio-like type men (the older women know who I’m talking about and I still don’t know what the allure was) who sweep down to rescue the heroine in distress like in the Harlequin books my grandmother used to devour. I also can’t wrap my brain around writing a female leads who could have stepped out of an episode of The Housewives of (Pick-Your-City) because I know nothing about the world of the rich, bold, beautifully bored.

Sure, I use my imagination and research certain elements of my stories but on the whole, I base my storytelling on what I have experienced, scenes that could possibly happen in real life and locations exist. It makes it all the more real for me. Of course, a story wouldn’t be a good one without a little drama and twists thrown in for good measure. And whose to say that those are made up, right?

That’s my kind of fiction and the kind of fiction I write.

Do you agree with that quote? And if you write fiction, what kind of fiction do you write?

©2017 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved.

Updated post – originally posted on November 3, 2015



Don’t Justify Your Love

writing keeps me sane

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Have you ever give up on writing?

Long ago when I participated in the WP Writing 101 course, a number of participants listed some of these reasons for giving up on writing years ago:

  • family would invade their privacy by reading their journals or creative work without permission;
  • being accused of basing fictional characters on family and friends;
  • people assuming that everything written was 100% true, especially the more “mature” content;
  • sharing their personal feelings or writing frankly about a topic only to be interrogated about the meaning behind their words.

It was astounding to these reasons pop up so much.

To be writers and storytellers, we need to develop a thick skin but you don’t need to justify anything to anyone anymore.

You write to express yourself and you do not have to justify what you write and why you write.

You write because you are a writer.

It’s as simply as that.

©2016 Marquessa Matthews. All Rights Reserved.

Updated from original Justify Your Love, November 10, 2015